Bestiality is sexual abuse of animals.  People having sexual contact with animals for their own gratification, or using animals sexually to demean and injure others, is animal sexual abuse.

So what’s this got to do with a blog with a heavy focus on people abuse and kink?

A lot, actually.

I found out some information related to this topic a few months ago that has had me extremely worried.

I also really love animals in general – in a healthy way.  I’ve always had pets, who have always been cherished companions, and I take the responsibility to protect these creatures we bring into our lives seriously.  I’ve done animal rescue and other volunteer work in the past, both throughout the Bay Area, California, and nationally, and undoubtedly will again.  I make financial donations to support groups that engage in this work.

And of course, I have a strong, long-standing interest in the topic of abuse in general.

So, the topic has been on my mind for a while, and I finally realized I may as well use my blog to explore it.

One of the things I certainly can do is try to further understanding of this perversion, and the very real damage it does, both to the animals in question – and to the people involved, particularly if the animal is used as a tool to abuse her (usually a woman or child) with.  I can open the door to discussion to a) help people understand the extent of the problem and why it’s so bad, and b) give people who have been victimized this way in some manner a place to vent and share their feelings with other victims, if they so choose.  We aren’t allowed to even discuss what’s wrong with bestiality on Fetlife, so I’m opening up a platform for it here, as another aspect of abuse in general.  The role that bestiality plays in abuse in general and in BDSM – and why it has everything to do with the former and nothing at all to do with the latter – needs to be aired.

Sadly, there is a segment of the population who actually considers this to be a legitimate kink, and some even consider it a valid sexual orientation.  I am not going to go into all of the horrifying twaddle many of these people posit as justification for these horrifyingly skewed views.  I don’t care what their excuses are – bestiality is nonconsensual by definition, because animals lack the capacity to give consent.

It’s the same thing with children and child sexual abuse.  Both animals and children depend on adults to protect them, and having sex with them is one of the most flagrant violations of trust possible.

The fact that sex with animals cannot possibly be consensual lands it firmly in the camp of being abuse, plain and simple.  Sorry, but in these two areas, your kink is just not OK on any level, end of story.

I don’t care if you, the person, likes it, or what role you’re placing the animal in.  The animal cannot consent.  Period.  That’s abuse of the animal, however you slice it.

If a person is being forced to participate in bestiality against their will, then that is abuse of the person as well.

I know some readers will disagree with me, perhaps vehemently.  I don’t care.  Feel free to discuss your views in your own blog.  I’m all for YKIOK in almost every other area, but not with respect to animal or child abuse.

This is a topic that’s so taboo that little has been written about it, but more is starting to emerge with time.  It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that a man fucking smaller animals such as dogs and cats and anything smaller is likely to do serious physical damage, and in fact, such abused animals often die, in great agony.  People who attempt to be penetrated by large animals such as horses and bulls and the like also often die or are severely maimed from injuries sustained in the process.  There are many other things that people do to animals sexually that do unquestionable, obvious physical damage.

What isn’t as well-known or spoken of as often, or as visible, is the effects on the animals and their behavior (and hence their likelihood of being put down for aggression) regardless of their size or species, the subsequent effects on people who have to deal with those dominance challenges and aggression – or the effects when the abuser is a woman, or the effects on either gender if an animal is used as a tool of abuse.

Most animal sexual abusers are male, but there is also a shocking percentage of women among their ranks who deliberately seek out animals to have sexual relations with.  I think they are something like 22% of animal sexual abusers, if memory serves.

The psychological damage to both species involved in any given encounter is not often attended to as well as it should be, but understanding of it and addressing it is growing.

Just because there are no visible injuries to the animal does not mean that it hasn’t been harmed, in exactly the same way that the lack of visible injuries in no way means a woman hasn’t been abused by her partner.  Psychological damage to the animal can manifest as fear biting, dominance challenges, unprovoked attacks on children and other people that cause serious injury or death, and more – none of which are good for anyone, human or animal.  These are some of the most common problems that cause people to give up their pets to animal shelters, where they are often found to be unrehabilitatable, and end up being put down.  Something like this that results in an animal losing its home and then its life cannot possibly be seen as a benign force.

What is definitely well-known, and becoming better known with time, is that people who abuse animals, particularly sexually, are highly likely to commit child abuse, both sexual and otherwise, and other violent crimes like rape and murder.  Studies that I will eventually post some links to show that the vast majority of people who commit such crimes started out using animals as their victims, although this is already common knowledge.

Sadly, there is an extremely high recidivism rate for both sexual abusers of people, and those who abuse animals in any way.  The vast majority of these predators are not only not repentant, but may also see what they do as good and healthy in some way, in much the same way many pedophiles do.  Many think they are doing something so caring and loving, when nothing could be further from the truth.  These people do not get better because they don’t think there’s anything wrong with them to start with – and they don’t want to get better.  They will offend again and again if they are not stopped definitively.

Because of these facts alone, it is essential that we find a way to stop these behaviors as best we can, before the perpetrators escalate to harming human beings.  It’s a marker of very high risk.

Forced sex with animals is also not an uncommon way of abusing a wife, girlfriend, submissive, or even child – and the effects on both the human and animal victims can be devastating.  Abuse of any sort tends to be accompanied by a terrible sense of shame on the part of the abused.  That same is often all the worse when forced sex with animals is involved.  Forced bestiality is also a frequent component of ritual abuse.

While the very thought of bestiality is repulsive to most decent people, and the desire to prohibit discussion about the topic is understandable in many groups, unfortunately that just drives the practice further underground – where it is all the more dangerous, because it’s harder to keep an eye on perpetrators and know who they are.

What this translates to on the relationship front is an inability to learn easily if a new person you are contemplating getting involved with is into this sort of thing.  It’s disgusting enough to think about sleeping with someone who is into having sex with animals, and may be actively involved in doing so when you’re not around (never mind the risk of disease transmission), but it also means increased risk of harm to your own animals in bringing an animal sexual abuser into your home.  After all, eventually, there is no way you will have that person in your sights 100% of the time they are in your house, around your pets.

We discuss the rest of our kinks pretty openly most of the time, but this one is likely to remain hidden for quite some time when a new relationship forms because of the taboos.  Imagine the devastation and heartbreak of finding something like this out about your partner sometime after you’ve gotten deeply involved, instead of at the outset.  Imagine the horror of other people finding out – or just learning that they already knew well before you did but no one bothered to alert you, and all of the potential issues with that, and being partnered with such a person.  It’s worth a Google search on any prospective new partner, at least, because it’s just amazing what people will post publicly – and what’s posted publicly is often very widely known.

Personally, if I were ever to find myself in a relationship with someone with a history like this and anyone else knew about it, I’d sure as hell want them to tell me so I could distance myself immediately.  I once did find out that someone I had dated was a convicted child molester, and I was furious when I found out much later that everyone else we both knew knew about it years before I did, but no one bothered to tell me.  They apparently thought I already knew, precisely because things like this tend to be common knowledge, especially in small groups and when they are posted online, in governmental databases, etc. – and I was stunned.  I have, of course, completely distanced myself from that person and those closest to him, in part because I didn’t want to risk being painted with the brush of guilt by association.  It was painful, and I really felt betrayed that he had not told me himself, but I felt even more betrayed by my friends and others around me who knew but didn’t tell me.  It would have been a hell of a lot easier to deal with if someone had bothered to let me know much sooner.

People will often still hide their interests and involvement in activities such as these, but if discussion about it were allowed more openly, particularly in places like Fetlife and online dating sites, at least more people would get a warning, because some people just can’t resist talking publicly about such behaviors.  If it’s more open, more people will be open about it, which means anyone looking for a new relationship stands a better chance of learning about something like this up front.

Because of the recidivism issue, if a person were to find out that their partner or a potential partner were into bestiality, it would be extremely unwise to rely on promises that they will not engage in it any more, even if the person requesting the promise is a dominant and the bestialist the submissive or slave.

Don’t delude yourself, if you find yourself in the situation of discovering you’re involved with, or contemplating becoming involved with, a bestialist.

If you wouldn’t ever trust a child rapist in your home around your children, why would you ever trust an animal rapist around your animals – or your children?

Thankfully, state legislators have responded to the increasing knowledge of the damaging effects for both animals and people, and today, animal abuse is a misdemeanor or even a felony in the majority of states, with several having separate (and more severe) sanctions for those who engage in bestiality specifically.  Some states have even started registries like the Megan’s Law website for convicted animal abusers, and it’s certain that more will follow suit.  I’m not a big fan of increasing legislation, but the potential for better protecting both animals and humans is so significant that that makes this an eminently reasonable move, in my opinion.  Existing laws defining animal abuse ought to prevent potential misuses.

Have you ever been the victim of forced sex with animals?  Found out your partner or someone you were really interested in was into animals this way? How did you find out?  How did you deal with it?  What effects did it have on your life, relationship, family, pets?

Feel free to discuss these things here, if you wish, and keep an eye out for links to resources where you can find help and understanding, in addition to the regular abuse links here.

Please also let me know of any other links and resources you may be aware of which are not yet posted here.

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